Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God sight is very precious (1 Peter 3:1-4).
Most wives have the best intentions towards their husbands. It may not, however, roll off of our tongues in that way. Right words, wrong words. Ears and mouths. Apostle Peter gets down to the ‘heart’ of the matter: a gentle and quiet spirit.
Apostle Peter writes to the example of Jesus Christ… “that we might follow in his steps” (1 Peter 2:21). That if we are his, our conduct ought to model the life he lead in walk and in talk (1 John 2:6). The Apostle addresses wives first towards the character of Christ, that the conduct in our marriage is in direct relationship to the Word of God.
Pursue and Glorify God
Wives throughout passages of Scripture like Sarah who is mentioned in verses 5-6, were holy women who hoped in God. A hope we read that there’s more purpose in our actions, ‘respectful and pure,’ than anything we can say. That any conflict between wives and husbands, between husbands to the Word of God may be ultimately won without speech (our conduct) by wives who pursue and glorify God.
Looking for Evidence
Who is Jesus if he is not, to those closest to us, humbly and gently displayed in our behavior? A husband, whether a believer or not, looks for the evidence of Christ in his Christian wife. Not from all she says but in all that she does in her household (Titus 2:5). Not in the designer of her clothes but in the designer of her heart.
A Christian wife’s best quality is the Word of God that continues to transform and empower her to live out the inward nature of her Savior in her home, towards her husband. Therefore a wife in submission to her husband can rest assuredly to the ever-present eye of God (v.4).
When beauty, a gentle and quiet spirit in God’s sight is precious, internal, and given we can rejoice in Christ all the more. That there inside us is the very promise of the Holy Spirit, ‘the hidden person of the heart.’ We have within us a constant comforter and reliable reminder of the life Christ led in conduct and in speech.
So let’s go Christians, wear make-up that truly lasts.